Search Amazon.com for Dating assistanceWhat is Courtship? Courtship is actually trying to conquer the heart of another person.
How does courtship start? It starts by the attraction of two individuals. The attraction, the infatuation and you have the “crush syndrome”. One can get attracted by the physical beauty of the person, how handsome or how sexy the person is; the way the person walks; the intelligence of the person; the manner of speaking; the smile; the eyes; his hands: the mouth; the glances; his attentiveness; his voice “Oh what a blood rush”. These are the most exciting and memorable feelings and moments in a person’s life.
The next is the “getting to know” the other person and then the magical glances which captivate the inner being of the person. When the heart is captivated the excitement of the first date makes the heart race. The outcome of the first date may be exciting for some but not for others.
The reason for not being exciting is maybe the person expected so much of that first date. For this to happen one must look back and see what caused the disappointment of the first date. One must be honest with oneself to see what caused that anxiety so it won’t be repeated again.
After several wonderful dates the next excitement is the “going steady”. What is the right age to go to steady? Well any age. If the child is a minor it can be infatuation for the child, but the parent’s must be aware of the situation as this can go out of bounds. That is why it is important for the parent to be a friend to their children and share experiences of their courtship with them.
Going steady may last a few weeks, a few months, and maybe years. This stage may last or not, depending how deep is their love for each other. For this relationship to last the couple must be matured and have intentions of getting engaged in a year or more. One can have a whirlwind romance which is going steady for a few months and get married right away. Whirlwind romance may last depending again on the maturity and the endurance of their love.
The most exciting part, or sometimes the scary part of going steady is getting to know the family of your beloved. When this happens one must be aware that this is the getting to know you; the checking out on your background and if you are accepted or not. One would think that not getting accepted is not important because he loves me. Well, that will depend on how mature your future husband and yourself are. The influence of family can be a big pressure or a blessing on your courtship and married life. Just be yourself. Be humble and no pretense.
In all aspects of relationships the parent’s influence in teaching moral values is very important in preparing the child in his adult life. Parents must encourage having interactions on matters of the heart, sharing experiences of their struggles and how it was solved, making the children learn responsibilities and understand the importance of trust and respect. Parents must be the role models of showing and practicing good moral values through respect and trust with their own married life.
Make true love continue to burn within us. It is the stimulus that vibrates our whole being, energizes and gives meaning to our everyday existence and purpose in life.
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