UNDERSTANDING AGE GAP RELATIONSHIPS

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Does age gap really matter in a relationship? Age gap relationships are either frowned upon or accepted. This relationship topic remains very controversial and each has different point of view. Eyebrows often rise when people see a couple who are obviously having age gap. For most, age gap relationships are abnormal. Many people would stare at a 40 year old and a 20 year old together and assume "that's just not right". Age gap relationships or "spring-autumn" relationships may get criticism, no matter how balanced or healthy they are. However, this type of relationship is becoming more and more popular these days. In one study, the happiest couples sited were the ones that had an age gap of 3 – 12 or more years, with the husband being older. Age gap relationships can vary in age size. Anywhere between 5 to 10 years can be quite small whereas there can be some gap size between 20 to 50 years and above. Large age gaps are quite common and not so surprising these days. People mature at different rates, based on family upbringing and life experiences. It is likely for two people at different ages – even with a 20 or 30 year age gap – to be equally "mature,” but it does not happen all the time. It is essential to look at the motivating factors that draw a couple to one another in the first place despite the age differences. An older guy may be attracted to younger girl due to her youth, vivacity and energy. On the other side, a young girl may like the maturity and stability of an older man. These motives, however, cannot ensure a successful and happy relationship. A common dilemma for those with major age differences in their relationship is uneven life experiences. These can include major highlights in their life like career and family. Another problem in this type of relationship is family acceptance. Unless this is something that the family has already accepted with other members, a large age gap often seems out of the ordinary and hard to accept. Indeed, family expectations are hard to deal with but eventually, with patience, anything can be resolved in due time. A younger woman who is married to an older guy will most likely be his second wife. For the woman, this will probably be her first marriage and so she may not have as much history and experience as her husband does. With this comes emotional baggage. The younger lover can be immature and are perfectionists that they seek all sorts of things that the other can't give. Make sure that he or she is mature for his or her age so you can avoid arguments. Making an age gap relationship work is like any other successful relationship – it needs an open and honest communication skill, dedication, and a lot of sincere effort.  Age gap relationships can work. The problem is not necessarily the ages of the couple, but how willing they are to deal with important issues involved in a relationship such as motives for being together, future plans and decisions in life.
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