You’ve all been there: dating men who seemed like gems but were really jerks. If you’ve been on this losing streak, then maybe it’s time to rethink your views. You may actually be caught up in a frustrating but fairly common phenomenon of amazing chicks who date men who don’t hold a candle to them. Whether you gravitate toward players who won’t commit or couch potatoes with zero ambition, lame guys will drag you down, and ultimately, hold you back from happiness. Since habits are hard to break, you need a plan to help you escape the loser trap, and this time, it should be for good.
First step is to first stay away from men. In other words, go on a crash diet where you have to be by yourself first. It’s a smart ideal to try this form of detoxification. If you don’t have time alone, you can’t reflect on why the relationship didn’t work out. Consequently, you’re prone to repeating the same blunders. By swearing off partners even for a bit, you’ll gain enough perspective of what you deserve out of life.
The time alone allows you to sharpen your radar and spot out losers even from a mile away. Of course, this isn’t to say that you went out of your way to look for that lame partner. You may not have noticed his sketchy side until it was too late. At the beginning, it was all about butterflies and daisies when you were too dazzled with this other great qualities. Getting swept away is one of the easiest ways to fall for the wrong person. To maintain certain clarity, you need to take new relationships slowly. For the first couple weeks of dating and getting to know each other, don’t try to see each other too often. After going out in a date for a few times, you need to come up with a list and positive and negative traits. This way, you won’t let yourself ignore the red flags.
Wonder why these red flags only seem obvious after the fact? In part, it’s because you were literally blinded by your strong emotions. One tactic that can help you see the real deal is by looking at the big picture instead of focusing on the here and now. You may tend to put stock in how a guy acts when he’s around just you. If you pan out, you’ll get a much better perspective on things. Plus, once you get into the groove of attracting certain types, it can be hard to change. You’re in a rut because it feels familiar and therefore, natural. To snap out of it, ask those whose lives you admire. Break out of your old pattern. Who knows, this could actually work for you.
Plus, you just have to be ruthless at times to break out of your comfort zone. You can just tell the guy to stay away from you. Sure, it may really be annoying, but breaking it off will free you up to pursue better options.
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